You are not my father…but you are the father of my children! Sorry Rob, I couldn’t resist. So this is an inside joke between my husband and me. One mother’s day many years ago, my sweet husband dropped the ball. I mean REALLY dropped it. I was so upset. There was no special breakfast, no card, no flowers and no gift. I was hurt and beyond pissed off. When I confronted him about it, he said, “You are not my mother.” We had a nice long discussion and let’s just say my mother’s day celebrations are much better today.
When you have small children, the responsibility of celebrating Father’s Day and Mother’s Day falls on the parents. The kids aren’t capable of organizing it. As the children get older, they begin to engage and most are excited to celebrate their parents. Rob and I usually sit down and discuss what our expectations are for the day each year. For me, it’s usually a day that I do not have to cook, plan a meal, clean or grocery shop. For Rob, it’s often spending time with the kids. My best advice to you is to have an open discussion. Don’t make each other guess what the other one wants. And whatever you do, do not forget to thank and wish your spouse a happy day. They are the father or mother of your children.
So with Father’s Day this weekend, have that conversation with your husband. If you don’t have time for that, here are a few simple and low cost ideas:
- Stock the fridge and pantry with HIS favorite drinks and snacks. Our kitchen is usually filled with the things the kids and I like.
- Does he have a hobby or something he likes to do? Let him do this today without any complaining or asking how long he will be.
- Is there a big sporting event he wants to watch that day? Get the sofa ready and let him watch it and even take that afternoon nap uninterrupted if he falls asleep.
- What does he like for dinner? Make a reservation. Cook his favorite meal. Buy meat for him to BBQ if that’s what he likes to do. Just have a plan.
- Make sure the kids make cards and to top it off, you write a letter telling him why you think he’s such a great dad.
Remember what goes around comes around. Pay it forward Moms!
I’d love to hear how you will celebrate Father’s Day this year? Please leave me a comment and share your plans for the day.